Once there was a person who was sure his wife had a hearing problem. He spoke about it to his friend in confidence. The wise friend suggested they find out the severity of the issue and gave a plan. The person went home and saw his wife cooking in the kitchen. From a distance he asked her, “what are you making”. And as he did not get a response, he kept moving closer to her, repeating the question even louder. And then it happened. His wife turned around and hit him. He exclaimed, “what is wrong with you, that hurt”. She replied, “how many times do I need to repeat myself”.

Expected or unexpected, transformation is always about self. Even if something needs to be corrected external to you, the realization that you need to do or not do something, is the transformation. The correction is the after effect.

It is always about you. There is nothing unexpected about it.